Cynthia Rao Counselling

Counselling - London Bridge and Central London

Psychosynthesis Counselling combined with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting
based in Holborn/Bank and London Bridge, Central London


Joanne (name has been changed) came to counselling because her relationship had ended. Our first session Joanne cried uncontrollably and there was nothing for us to do but just sit and allow this to happen. In our first few sessions Joanne found it difficult to articulate how she was feeling and it took time for her to discover just how out of control, angry, sad, depressed she was. Her mood swings were so up and down she felt she did not know where she was most of the time. She described herself as being at the bottom of a deep pit with rocks falling on her. She was experiencing flashbacks of events that had happened in her childhood. One memory was of her dad trying to kill her mum. She was the daughter of an alcoholic and had little sense of self and very low self esteem. She felt so rejected by her ex-boyfriend and knew she had come to a point in her life where it did not matter where she was in the world she could not escape what she was feeling. She talked about her parents and this was extremely difficult for her because it was the first time she was really reflecting on the abandonment and rejection she felt from them both and also the violence she had witnessed growing up. Her father’s alcoholism had affected her profoundly and she realised that every man she had been involved with had some addiction from alcohol to sex to compulsive lying. This realisation was shocking to her but began to make sense as she looked at her history of relationships and began to process the material that was coming up for her.

Joanne began slowly to see that in order to survive she had to repress many parts of her that were too painful for her. Using Psychosynthesis techniques of sub-personality work we were able to work with the traumatised and wounded parts of her. Little by little we were able to really look at the rejection and lack of nurturing she had suffered and were able to integrate these parts. Joanne began to feel less overwhelmed she was able to be more honest about herself and less defensive. She started to have moments where she said it felt as though the sun had come out and for a brief time her negative thoughts and feelings receded into the background. These moments became longer and more frequent and she was able to accept the good things that started to appear in her life. She became aware of her lack of boundaries, for example, people taking her for granted or being rude to her and she in turn feeling the need to put people down in order to feel in control. She began to look at the beliefs she had about herself and how they informed her relationships, i.e. she believed she did not deserve very much, was not loveable or worthy of respect. With her self awareness growing Joanne found she was able to sit more easily with her negative feelings and thoughts and discovered she was able to let them go.

Psychosynthesis Counselling combined with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting
based in Holborn/Bank and London Bridge, Central London





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